About this passageTwo adjacent remarks from a book largely made of short sayings without setting. The first turns on where a demand is addressed: the junzi puts the requirement to himself, the small man puts it to everybody else. The second makes the same distinction visible in company — the difference between having standing and needing to win, and between belonging to people and belonging to a side.
The Master said, "What the superior man seeks, is in himself. What the mean man seeks, is in others."
The Master said, "The superior man is dignified, but does not wrangle. He is sociable, but not a partizan."
In plainer words
What a person of real character asks for, they ask of themselves. What a small man asks for, he asks of other people. And: such a person carries themselves seriously without picking fights, and gets on with everyone without joining a faction.
A restatement in modern English, written for this collection. The passage above is the text; this is one way of putting it.